In this process we have come through some small bumps along the way. To be raw and open with you I am going to share them and how God has helped us through them and how to pray for us while we are in them!
This is probably 1/8 of the paperwork! This was taken when we received our approval to begin the adoption from our agency:)
When preparing all of our paperwork for our dossier, everyone in the house had to have a physical evaluation and medical forms filled out. With our kids that was super easy to do, since they have check ups every year. Our pediatrician was very nice to just take the paperwork and fill in the information without having to schedule another appointment for each of them. The hiccup came when Aaron and I tried to schedule an appointment with our family doctor. Since we had not seen him in over 3 years, we were considered new patients and had to schedule a new patient appointment. When I called in early October, the earliest they could get us in was the end of November!! With needing our paperwork turned in, that wasn't an option. So I just decided to call around and basically didn't care who the doctor was or how well known they were, as long as they could see us soon they won the prize! So I happened to find one that our insurance would accept and could see us a week later! When we showed up to the appointment, I found out that our new doctor was Chinese. I became super excited because how awesome is that! She could help us with our new daughter once we arrive home and help get her acclimated to the scary world of doctors offices. I also was a little nervous because I didn't know how she would react when we told her we were adopting someone from her country. Would she be grateful to us? Would she be opposed to us adopting from her country? So just some scenarios ran through my mind before she came in the room. There was also a lot of paperwork for her to fill out for us so I was hoping she didn't mind taking the time to fill those out for us. Well the Lord definitely had control of things. When she came in, she was super sweet, so willing to fill out the paperwork for us, AND was soo excited for us and thankful to us for adopting a little girl from her country. She kept saying how she wanted to help out as much as she could. She speaks fluent Mandarin Chinese and was willing to help talk to her. So it was such a relief to have her on board and just to be a reference to turn to if we need it once she is in the states with us. It was such an answer to prayer after the stress of finding a new doctor and within the window we needed to get seen and then God's extra gift of her being chinese and speaking fluently and wanting to be by our side as we bring her home and transition.
Back when Liam was a baby we had some rough times. Long story short, we ended up doing some testing to find out that he has a dairy and gluten intolerance and once we figured that out, he's been great ever since. Because of those issues, he ended up being behind a little bit in reaching his milestones of rolling over, crawling, walking, and talking. When he was 18 months old, he was evaluated because he was not walking great. He could walk small distances but could not stand up in the middle of a room on his own. He couldn't squat without falling over, and just was having a little trouble getting around. When they evaulated him, it was determined that he had low muscle tone. It wasn't severe but it was something that he needed some physical therapy and speech therapy to catch back up to where he needed to be. We originally had him evaluated at an outpatient therapy but we would of had to pay a lot out of pocket because of our insurance. (We have a crazy high individual/family deductible and until that's met, we pay all out of pocket costs.) So we ended up doing the first steps program which was drastically less expensive and they came to our house. He was also referred to an orthotics company for "boots" to wear at all times to help support his ankles and help him walk better. He will need two pairs of these a year as his feet will grow and he will need them until he is at least 5 and then will be re-evaulated. So, we were fitted for those and given the bill and once again were faced with a giant bill that our insurance wouldn't cover. And buying these twice a year for the next few years is going to be a good chunk of change. It was kind of a big downer for me because here we are, we know that we are being called to adopt and we are trying to save every penny here and there to pay for it and now this comes up that we really need to do. After talking with them about our insurance situation and that we are adopting, the company has been so gracious to us and has given us a significant discount for each pair that he will need. He is doing so well with everything! We immediately saw such improvement once he had his boots and his speech really picked up quick. (once he didn't have to focus on the walking and could work on the talking) He is really excelling and hopefully won't have to have the therapy part much longer.
Back in April 2014, Aaron found out that the company he works for (Biomet) was being bought by another orthopedic company in Warsaw. With this buyout there are going to be so many changes for the better and could be for the bad. As of now, no one knows really what will happen. Will you lose your job, will you keep it? The deal is supposed to be finalized sometime this first half of the year, but still no one knows much. Aaron thinks that his job is pretty secured but it's not definite and he could lose his job. We are just waiting, praying, and trusting in God's plan and know that he has it all under control and if Aaron were to lose his job, there would be good things to come of it.
Last week on the morning of our 8th wedding anniversary, we discovered that our heat had gone out. We were pretty puzzled because our house is only 5 years old and should last as long as the energizer bunny! When they came out to fix it, there were several things wrong with it. The motor, the tank, unbalanced.... blah! It ended up being a nice chunk to repair and fix. Though now I'm so grateful it happened last week when it was in the 50's as opposed to this week where it's -25 outside. Another expense that we will have to cover is Aaron's car needs new tires. It's been something that we are budgeting for, but with all of these unexpected things coming up, it's hard to write that check, but it's something that he needs for his safety!
I know that God will make a way and will provide the funding for these bumps, for Aaron's job, and for this entire adoption, but when you are in it, it's so hard to see that. Especially when it comes to me:) I'm such a worry wart and have a hard time giving it up and trusting and getting it out of my hands, my control, and just giving it to the Lord to work out. So here's to living one day at a time and daily just giving it to God to deal with and work out and to be thankful for heat, a car to drive, a job, and a healthy family :)
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